If you are reading this, chances are you know someone who may be a narcissist and are or have been in a relationship with one. If you’re unsure, I’ll clarify how you can distinguish a narcissist. Narcissists can be extremely charming. They are well liked by individuals who they feel they can gain something from. Narcissists do not have many close friends, and if they did, somehow the other person was blamed for the relationship ending.
Narcissists take zero accountability for their actions and words. They will never admit they are wrong, and they will play with an individual’s emotions so that he or she comes off looking better than the other person. To have a relationship with a narcissist is by far an exhausting experience with many ups and downs. When the relationship is on a high note, you are deeply loved, honoured and cared for. Everything is great. However, here is a question to ask yourself: was something expected right after this nice experience?
Almost always, the narcissist has an ulterior motive.
If you have experienced the immense highs and lows of narcissistic abuse, please know you are not crazy. Yes, it is very common for a narcissist to make you feel this way. He or she will always blame you, insinuating that you are the problem and supporting that by literally twisting everything you say or do. Making you feel and think that you are crazy.
Pulling away from a narcissist’s grasp will take time, especially if it’s a parent and this has been the dynamic of your relationship. What you need to know is that narcissists are not confident in themselves at all. Narcissists are extremely insecure and when they see anyone else around them move on, thrive or experience something that may pull you away from them, they will try and convince you in any way possible that this is not for you and that you do not deserve whatever it is.
Pay attention to the red flags, as follows:
If you feel drained, confused and think you are crazy in the relationship, please do not try and change the narcissist. Narcissists will not change who they are. To them, you will forever be their servant to meet their needs and yours will always be put on the back burner.
Listen to your intuition. Get really good at this. The minute you feel something is off, it is. Ask, and make sure you stay on point. If the conversation takes a turn, walk away. Either walk away from the narcissist completely or talk to him or her in doses.
Boundaries. Have them. Be firm with them and do not change your feelings to accommodate or keep the peace.
Overall, you may need to also talk to a therapist, if this was abuse from your childhood.
You can and will heal from this.
If you’d like to learn more, join the next online workshop on Relationships.
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Healing from a Narcissist
If you are reading this, chances are you know someone who may be a narcissist and are or have been in a relationship with one. If you’re unsure, I’ll clarify how you can distinguish a narcissist. Narcissists can be extremely charming. They are well liked by individuals who they feel they can gain something from. Narcissists do not have many close friends, and if they did, somehow the other person was blamed for the relationship ending.
Narcissists take zero accountability for their actions and words. They will never admit they are wrong, and they will play with an individual’s emotions so that he or she comes off looking better than the other person. To have a relationship with a narcissist is by far an exhausting experience with many ups and downs. When the relationship is on a high note, you are deeply loved, honoured and cared for. Everything is great. However, here is a question to ask yourself: was something expected right after this nice experience?
Almost always, the narcissist has an ulterior motive.
If you have experienced the immense highs and lows of narcissistic abuse, please know you are not crazy. Yes, it is very common for a narcissist to make you feel this way. He or she will always blame you, insinuating that you are the problem and supporting that by literally twisting everything you say or do. Making you feel and think that you are crazy.
Pulling away from a narcissist’s grasp will take time, especially if it’s a parent and this has been the dynamic of your relationship. What you need to know is that narcissists are not confident in themselves at all. Narcissists are extremely insecure and when they see anyone else around them move on, thrive or experience something that may pull you away from them, they will try and convince you in any way possible that this is not for you and that you do not deserve whatever it is.
Pay attention to the red flags, as follows:
If you feel drained, confused and think you are crazy in the relationship, please do not try and change the narcissist. Narcissists will not change who they are. To them, you will forever be their servant to meet their needs and yours will always be put on the back burner.
Listen to your intuition. Get really good at this. The minute you feel something is off, it is. Ask, and make sure you stay on point. If the conversation takes a turn, walk away. Either walk away from the narcissist completely or talk to him or her in doses.
Boundaries. Have them. Be firm with them and do not change your feelings to accommodate or keep the peace.
Overall, you may need to also talk to a therapist, if this was abuse from your childhood.
You can and will heal from this.
If you’d like to learn more, join the next online workshop on Relationships.
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