No is a complete sentence. For so long it was so hard to say “No”. It came with feelings of complete and utter guilt. Guilt, that made me think that if I prioritize myself, that if I took time to care for myself or stood out in the crowd, that I was taking something from somebody else. It would literally eat at my insides. I felt horrible for putting myself first.
No, such a simple word that holds so much power. No, I’m sorry that you feel the way you do but I will not be held responsible for your actions. No, I don’t feel like going out, I would much rather stay in. No, I will not show up for you because hey, when was the last time you showed up for me? No, I refuse to do anything that is not in alignment to who I am anymore.
Imagine the power in this. The growth. That you are not a bad person for valuing yourself. No, you will no longer justify who you are to fit into their molds. To make them happy. Holy! Imagine the freedom in that!
I swear the stress has melted right off. No pressure to be perfect, no pressure to think before I speak “ because everyone takes things personally” – insert eye roll here. Healing means saying no.
It may be hard at first but with a little practice you can make it work. Obviously in the beginning the guilt will show up but you just have to work through it.
Why am I feeling guilty? Why would I be a bad person for putting my needs first? Have any of these individuals made changes in their lives? Have they stopped and considered my feelings? Why do I keep blaming myself? Am I not entitled to my joy?
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No
No is a complete sentence. For so long it was so hard to say “No”. It came with feelings of complete and utter guilt. Guilt, that made me think that if I prioritize myself, that if I took time to care for myself or stood out in the crowd, that I was taking something from somebody else. It would literally eat at my insides. I felt horrible for putting myself first.
No, such a simple word that holds so much power. No, I’m sorry that you feel the way you do but I will not be held responsible for your actions. No, I don’t feel like going out, I would much rather stay in. No, I will not show up for you because hey, when was the last time you showed up for me? No, I refuse to do anything that is not in alignment to who I am anymore.
Imagine the power in this. The growth. That you are not a bad person for valuing yourself. No, you will no longer justify who you are to fit into their molds. To make them happy. Holy! Imagine the freedom in that!
I swear the stress has melted right off. No pressure to be perfect, no pressure to think before I speak “ because everyone takes things personally” – insert eye roll here. Healing means saying no.
It may be hard at first but with a little practice you can make it work. Obviously in the beginning the guilt will show up but you just have to work through it.
Why am I feeling guilty? Why would I be a bad person for putting my needs first? Have any of these individuals made changes in their lives? Have they stopped and considered my feelings? Why do I keep blaming myself? Am I not entitled to my joy?
Yup. Your joy. It’s completely like that.
No is a complete sentence awakening your joy.
Now go, practice your super power.
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