The Neglected Child

I want you to take a moment and visualize a child that is completely ignored, compared to another sibling, never  accomplishing their tasks as told because it’s done wrong, who is yelled at for no apparent reason, has never had anyone approach them to explain situations or why things are happening to them or around them. A child who is scared, exhausted and maybe even acting out. A child who has lost a sense of belonging and eventually just follows so that they have the ability to find some form of connection.

Maybe this child was fed, maybe there were moments of some relief with some good times, but the child is still uneasy, sitting and waiting for the next emotional upset. A child who when would cry they were told they had no reason and had nothing to really cry about because the authority figure had it worse. A child that was sensitive and attuned to life and nature but was never nurtured. Can you see what this child could look like? Can you see what this neglected child would become? Can you take a moment and think about how this child would cope?

Fast forward to today, this child is you. This child went through situations that made them feel unsafe, a child that was not given the correct understanding of how life really works and that the belief that life is nothing but a struggle. This is you, today living a life of routine, stress and heartache. This is you, the child who can’t allow themselves the time to nurture their own inner being. This is you, because if you did nurture yourself the guilt would sink in and you would recall the words that you were “bad” for wanting to take time for yourself or selfish for providing for your needs without sacrificing every part of your experience.

The Mind, Body and Soul have completely disconnected and this adult version of yourself is seeking to find a deeper meaning, some suffer to the degree of depression and loneliness, even though they are surrounded with people. Some seek to find connection  but suffer from social anxiety and turn to addiction to help bring calm to their bodies. Calm…something they don’t often feel because their bodies are always in fight or flight. The need to survive instead of living in joy.

We yearn safety but instead we judge, push people away because that little child in you fears to death that someone will hurt them again. Then we wonder why life isn’t working out the way we want it to?

That little neglected child within you needs you. It needs you to love it. To parent it. To heal it. To cry with it. This little version of you holds all the truths and all the patterns, cycles and love that you are seeking in the exterior reality you create. Pay attention, this is your source to your power, control , calm and relief that you have been seeking.

The question is, if you saw a child in that neglect, or your own child, would you do anything and everything to help that child? If yes, then why not start with you?

“ Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime”

Herbert Ward