Finally I can openly admit my annoyance towards avoidance. For years I would run away from my feelings and emotions and hide behind my masks and illusions, blaming others for my shitty situations. The last five years that I’ve been in my souls purpose, avoidance has become the most painful experience. I literally cannot be around people in a state of avoidance; my stomach turns!
Let me explain avoidance from a metaphysical aspect. When you are in a state of avoidance, it’s as if your inner being has completely checked out and there is a feeling of numbness with a hint of resentment or anger. It causes the feeling of confusion, making you feel like you have to over compensate in your world by doing more. Then, you’re in a state of resistant which causes you to gravitate to your coping mechanisms, for most it’s their addictions.
Avoidance is a huge issue and one of the biggest emotional upsets. It can make you feel like you have no control, no choices or direction in your life. The universe works in a funny way and shows you when you’re in a state of avoidance. If you understand the laws of the universe you would understand that everything is reflected back like a reflection in the mirror.
In my personal experience and because I look at everything as a reflection of myself, I can tell I’m in a state of avoidance when I see people within their own addictions. For instance, I will match the frequency of smokers as I use to be one myself and I used it to avoid my emotions. So, when I am in a state of avoidance I’ll somehow notice more smokers around me, beside me in the car, next to me and I use this as an indication that I’m not dealing with my issue.
I see it with many, they are in situations where they are not happy and all they know is the abuse they receive. They stay and continue to avoid the situation until something big happens which then causes them to deal with their problems. Some might still ignore the problem and continue to live in avoidance. I’m not saying it’s easy, but the more you avoid the truth of the matter the more pain it causes. We continue with this illusion that everything will be ok and I can honestly say it hurts me when I can see someone’s inner being suffering.
My point is, stop avoiding your shit! You’ll end up attracting more resistant situations and more aggressive ones. The energy vibrates pretty high and it repels the people you want in your life, even your own personal successes!
Also, notice when you’re justifying or defending your avoidance. People will literally be calling you out on your own avoidance and you will feel a sense of being attacked, but that’s not the case. Time to check in with yourself and pay attention to your inner being and take ownership of what you are avoiding. Don’t be afraid, it’s not your fault you really are just trying to protect yourself from being hurt, that’s why you would avoid to begin with.
Avoidance is a defence mechanism from all your past hurt. I notice it more in people who have had mothers who are constantly telling them that what they are doing isn’t good enough and sticking their opinion where is doesn’t belong. The pain can be a lot to deal with, you may have even gravitated to your friends more instead of your family because home life is too intense. Your mother may be too controlling and your in a loud environment of constant yelling and disagreements.
So in all fairness avoidance has become a sense of relief for some due to their circumstances, but we also have to deal with what we are avoiding. That’s the key to creating success for yourself and to heal your addictions. I can’t promise it won’t hurt to dive deep in the depths of your soul or pain but it’s worth it. But if I can do it, you can too.
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Avoidance
Avoidance
Finally I can openly admit my annoyance towards avoidance. For years I would run away from my feelings and emotions and hide behind my masks and illusions, blaming others for my shitty situations. The last five years that I’ve been in my souls purpose, avoidance has become the most painful experience. I literally cannot be around people in a state of avoidance; my stomach turns!
Let me explain avoidance from a metaphysical aspect. When you are in a state of avoidance, it’s as if your inner being has completely checked out and there is a feeling of numbness with a hint of resentment or anger. It causes the feeling of confusion, making you feel like you have to over compensate in your world by doing more. Then, you’re in a state of resistant which causes you to gravitate to your coping mechanisms, for most it’s their addictions.
Avoidance is a huge issue and one of the biggest emotional upsets. It can make you feel like you have no control, no choices or direction in your life. The universe works in a funny way and shows you when you’re in a state of avoidance. If you understand the laws of the universe you would understand that everything is reflected back like a reflection in the mirror.
In my personal experience and because I look at everything as a reflection of myself, I can tell I’m in a state of avoidance when I see people within their own addictions. For instance, I will match the frequency of smokers as I use to be one myself and I used it to avoid my emotions. So, when I am in a state of avoidance I’ll somehow notice more smokers around me, beside me in the car, next to me and I use this as an indication that I’m not dealing with my issue.
I see it with many, they are in situations where they are not happy and all they know is the abuse they receive. They stay and continue to avoid the situation until something big happens which then causes them to deal with their problems. Some might still ignore the problem and continue to live in avoidance. I’m not saying it’s easy, but the more you avoid the truth of the matter the more pain it causes. We continue with this illusion that everything will be ok and I can honestly say it hurts me when I can see someone’s inner being suffering.
My point is, stop avoiding your shit! You’ll end up attracting more resistant situations and more aggressive ones. The energy vibrates pretty high and it repels the people you want in your life, even your own personal successes!
Also, notice when you’re justifying or defending your avoidance. People will literally be calling you out on your own avoidance and you will feel a sense of being attacked, but that’s not the case. Time to check in with yourself and pay attention to your inner being and take ownership of what you are avoiding. Don’t be afraid, it’s not your fault you really are just trying to protect yourself from being hurt, that’s why you would avoid to begin with.
Avoidance is a defence mechanism from all your past hurt. I notice it more in people who have had mothers who are constantly telling them that what they are doing isn’t good enough and sticking their opinion where is doesn’t belong. The pain can be a lot to deal with, you may have even gravitated to your friends more instead of your family because home life is too intense. Your mother may be too controlling and your in a loud environment of constant yelling and disagreements.
So in all fairness avoidance has become a sense of relief for some due to their circumstances, but we also have to deal with what we are avoiding. That’s the key to creating success for yourself and to heal your addictions. I can’t promise it won’t hurt to dive deep in the depths of your soul or pain but it’s worth it. But if I can do it, you can too.
May Love and Light Guide you home…
Christina Prokos
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